No More Dates – No More Poo

That’s it. I stepped in some poo and once is enough. No more dates.

I put myself out there on line, on some dating sites late last spring. I was bored in Montana and was probably seeking revenge, but we won’t talk about that!

And now I have learned my lesson. No more “I’ll show him…” because I only showed me how much time and energy I was wasting on people who did not have my best interest at heart. Putting myself on internet dating sites was probably me not having my best interest at heart, either.

I did meet some wonderful men. And I know many people have met ‘the one’ on those sites. I was needing a diversion and an ego boost, and I got it. Now I need to stop saying yes to every man who asks me out!

But this last one was the sign it is time to fully invest my time and energy elsewhere. Time to let sleeping dogs lie, and to just wait until it is the right time again.

On my way to meet this man, I stepped in dog doo-doo. Under my breath I said, “Oh, sh**…” and I wasn’t cussing the dog poo on my shoe. No, I was cussing the knowing inside me that this was a sign of more doo-doo to come.

Sure enough. He was full of it. I saw it in his eyes in the first ten seconds.

I said a silent prayer, many times over, and promised to quit my shenanigans of pursuing men, if Spirit would get me out of this date. I was also hoping I could still come out smelling rosy.

Well, the gentleman did not think so highly of me wanting to call it a day early…oh, well. But I did make a promise to Spirit.

My promise is to be patient. To wait for the right one at the right time. To trust. And in the friendly time…just keep doing what’s in front of me.

When we focus too much time and energy on a relationship, either the one you are in or the one you are hoping for, things get muddled.

But when we focus on our higher callings, doing the work we came to do in the world, the rest of our life falls into place. I believe everyone needs to find what makes their own heart sing, before they try to sing with another.

For me – what makes my heart sing -is staying focused on Spirit – on what I am asked to do and how I am asked to serve. As I focus on my children and my callings to be of service, I feel happier.

A dear friend of mine, a gentleman who is also a healer and wise spiritual teacher told me last year, “Cat, please don’t get into another relationship…we need you!”

So here’s to focusing on being of service. I am listening to Spirit, willing to go where I am asked and to heal as I can.

In the process I believe I am now capable of watching my step and keeping my shoes clean!